Love is the most fundamental characteristic in a Christian’s
life, yet love is one characteristic that most Christians struggle with! How do
I love somebody who has hurt me so badly? How do I love and forgive my mother
who has said all those painful words to me? How do I love that friend who
always belittled me and always showed disgust towards me? How do I possibly
love that housemate who went all out to make my life a misery? (You have heard
that it was said, ‘Love your neighbour and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you,
love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be
children of your Father in heaven! Mathew 5:43-45).
What is love?
A person who has never experienced Jesus’s love will never
know what true love is! I once thought that sex is love, money, materialistic
things…I thought that love is temporary! I thought that I could love a person
today, the next day when I don’t get what I usually get from them, and this
could be a greeting, a smile, money, a gift, a phone call, then I could hate
them! I thought that it was the right thing to do, loving those who love me and
hating those who hate me! A person who has not accepted the love of Jesus will
never wholeheartedly love another human being; it all starts with the Father,
with what Jesus did on the cross! (Greater love has no one than this: to lay
down one’s life for one’s friends. John 15:13). The world doesn’t believe this
message because they can’t fathom how a pure Man can possibly love and be so
good to them when they are so unworthy! God’s love says, “Yes Saul, I know you
persecuted my children, but I still love you and want you to work for me! I
will even change your name and call you Paul! Yes, Simon, you are now Peter! I know you denied me three times when I was at
my loneliest, but I still say: on this rock will I build my church, and the
gates of hell shall not prevail against it! Yes Titi, you were known as an
immoral filthy woman, but now I will change your name and call you Pure, and
despite all that you have done, I still want you to lead this nation!” You see,
you have to experience Jesus on a personal level to be able to love as he
loves! The kind of love that says, “I know my mother said all those bad words
to me but I will forgive and love her with all my heart! I know my father was
never there, but I will accept and love him, because he is the only earthly
father that I have! I know my neighbour mistreated me, but I will always avail
myself when she is in need!” Accept Jesus, grow in His love, embrace it, and
you’ll find it easier to love another person!
(Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a
grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these
virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians
3:13-24)
Everyone makes mistakes…
It has been very hot and crowded on campus lately! Trying to
find my way through the rowdy crowed one day, somebody pushed me until I
somehow staggered and bumped my head on the door! With so much irritation I
made a loud sigh attempting to make him feel bad! He sincerely apologized, but
I didn’t say anything, I didn’t even look at him! He said, “It was a mistake.
One day you’ll make a mistake and you’ll know how it feels like!” I felt bad
because I remembered the many times I also committed mistakes against others,
against God and yet He forgave me! (As high as the sky is above the earth, so
great is his love for those who honour him. As far as the east is from the
west, so far does he remove our sins from us. Psalm 103:11-12) Walking in God’s
love is a constant reminder that nobody is perfect, and everybody makes
mistakes! You also make mistakes, you have probably also made them, and you
definitely will in the future!
Recall the good…
I turned 23 years a couple of weeks back, and just like many
of my adult birthdays, my day was not “all that”! My dad only sent me a message
saying, “happy b-day”! From a dad one would expect a phone call, or an airtime
voucher, or anything you know! Ironically, he called my sister on that day and
never did bother to call me! I was obviously hurt but I have learned to never
expect much from mere human beings than I expect from God! I have come to an
understanding that no one can ever love me as much as God loves me so I’m not
going to be too hard on other people! Rather, I will recall the good that they
have done! When I was still in high school, on my birthdays my dad drove all
the way from Mafikeng to Vryburg to bring me cake and some party things! When I
remembered this I loved and appreciated him over again, and was grateful that I
still have a father who loves me and provides for me! See the good in others!
No matter how badly a person might treat you, there is still good in them! The
devil tries all the time to take me back to the past, to how badly people
treated me, but God’s love draws me to the right memories! Negative words are
replaced with positive ones! Feelings of anger are replaced with feelings of
love and forgiveness, only the love of God can do this!
Let it go…really, just let it go!
Forgiveness sets you free; love really does set you free!
Sometimes you might be holding on to
something that someone has done to you many years ago just to find out that
they have moved on and don’t even remember that incidence! Yes circumstances
change us, people change us, but when Jesus comes into your life He will
perform the greatest change that no man has ever seen! Jesus allows you to see
things on a different perspective; you see the depths of the situations through
the depths of His love! When somebody treats us bad we think that we have every
right to always make them feel guilty and fearful of what they have done, but
it is not a Christian’s responsibility to make another person feel bad! The
bible says that there is no condemnation in Jesus so if you are the kind that
likes to make people feel bad check your spirit!( I may be able to speak the
languages of human beings and even of angels, but if I have no love, my speech
is no more than a noisy gong or a clanging bell. I may have the gift of inspired preaching; I
may have all knowledge and understand all secrets; I may have all the faith
needed to move mountains—but if I have no love, I am nothing. I may give away
everything I have, and even give up my body to be burned—but if I have no love,
this does me no good. 1Corinthians 13:1-3) Loving others is the whole
definition of being Christian! To deal with all the bad memories and
encounters, I pray for those who dislike me because I want to experience the
true meaning of Christianity!
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