I always had a problem answering the question; “where in the bible is it written sex before marriage is a sin! Honestly, I had never seen it before, or maybe if I did, I just didn’t understand or didn’t want to understand and that was an excuse for me to indulge in sex activities with only one partner! We talk ourselves into believing that there’s nothing wrong with sleeping with one boyfriend even though you are not married yet, but he could dump you in the long run, who knows! I mean even sometimes, people engaged to get married break off their engagement plans! Only to find out that they have given a huge part of themselves to somebody who doesn’t deserve it! This leaves one feeling unworthy, with trust issues, not believing or grasping the fact that they could have someone who can love them unconditionally out there! Now, it wasn’t easy for me to abstain completely from sex, but I chose to anyway! I never read anywhere in the bible where God says, “sex before marriage is a sin”, but I chose to anyway! Well, besides my spirituality, it could save me from a whole lot of heartache, having condom bursts, contracting STD’s, fears of getting infected with HIV, unwanted pregnancies, severe modes of depression, and the embarrassment of being turned down by someone who only wanted to use me! God is really good because He says, “seek and ye shall find”! Whatever you are searching for, be it a principle to live by, or some clarification to get, God will reveal His truth to you as you seek Him in His Word!
It is vital for a Christian who desires to obey God completely to stay away from any kind of filthy sexual act and live a guilt-free life! Abstaining from any kind of sexual encounter with a man who is not your husband yet! I have taken it to the extreme! My sister thinks I’m crazy! But no kissing before marriage! (Inspired by many trues stories) I believe that if I honour God this way, He will reward me with a satisfied, fulfilled, sexual life when the right time comes! Something I am secretly anticipating! (Don’t mention this to my mum please!!!) To have a man, who despite our differences, will produce a sound of harmony that expresses the character of God’s love!
So you ask, don’t I get tempted! I do! Some days are harder than others! But you know I’ve God strength in God! When I am weak, He is strong! Sometimes I’m lying there in bed and I just want to succumb, but the sweet Holy Spirit reminds me of how far I’ve come! It may have only been five months, but please try it? Try it for a month and come tell me it was easy! I am running this race! I am fighting the good fight of faith! I am keeping my head up high and a crown of glory awaits me! In this case-a great and healthy sex life with a man who will love me unconditionally, and show me pure affection, for the rest of his life! How cool is that huh! Now please, don’t cringe! I was called to expose such! I was chosen to speak against sex before marriage! I was chosen to speak against lesbianism! I was chosen to expose orgies! I was called to stand against masturbation! I was chosen to expose old men who use young girls as sex objects! This is not a private matter: I am going public with it! Publicly, I chose purity over lust! Darkness over light! Works of God over the work of Satan! A generation that opts out for sexual purity in “the real world!”
Is there hope for a woman out there who feels that she has done too much and not even worthy of God’s many chances? I felt that way five months ago! In fact, I felt that way a few days back during the Dream Week conference in my church CRC! On a certain day during the conference, I could not stop thinking about sex! I tried to stop the thoughts most of the time but I’d just find myself luring back to them! This happened all day until in the evening when the second session began! After a sermon from Pastor Russel Evans, the founder of planet shakers, he called out the university students who feel the touch of God to come to the front! I wasn’t feeling God’s touch at that moment because I was driven by guilt and feelings of unworthiness! When I got to the front and people raised their hands in expectation, I was so guilt ridden that I just wanted to say, “God I’m not worthy, I’m sorry, forgive me!” God struck my mouth shut and commanded me not to apologise! This is not the time to be apologetic but to receive the power of the Holy Ghost! In an instant, for the second time during the conference, I unconsciously fell under the power of the Holy Spirit!
See, our faults and errors do not concern God, as much as we think they do! He knows that we are fixable! All He just wants is somebody who hungers after Him and He will do the rest! Ever since that day, I haven’t had any re-occurring sexual thoughts, well unless I force them, but it is not a battle! Why go back to that garbage anyway! Phillipians3:8-11 says, “Not only those things; I reckon everything as complete loss for the sake of what is so much more valuable, the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have thrown everything away; I consider it all as mere garbage, so that I may gain Christ and be completely united with him. I no longer have a righteousness of my own, the kind that is gained by obeying the Law. I now have the righteousness that is given through faith in Christ, the righteousness that comes from God and is based on faith. All I want is to know Christ and to experience the power of his resurrection, to share in his sufferings and become like him in his death, 11 in the hope that I myself will be raised from death to life.”
This, I tell you, has been one of the most sexual tempting seasons in my journey with Christ! But I believe that if I could pass it, then I have conquered the demons of sexual immorality! I am not playing a game, I am pleasing God with everything I am! Not only in the church or the home cell! Not only when I’m with other believers in the leadership meetings or social networks, but also in those secret places: mind body and soul!